All of us have a lock on who the difficult people are in our lives and under our leadership. When asked what makes other people difficult, most of us will include characteristics that reflect far more or significantly less of an attribute or quality we would prefer in our followers.
It’s human nature to think our perspectives and approach are, in fact, the most effective on the planet. This is what we are most familiar and comfortable with and, of course, we have witnessed how effective our leadership styles and tactics are.
Often, when I provide executive coaching, I remind leaders that leadership is not about our comfort, but about how well we lead those under our charge no matter how frustrating or difficult the person seems to be. In fact, the more bilingual or ambidextrous leaders can be in understanding and utilizing different communication and leadership styles, the more effective they will be.
When most leaders think about emotional intelligence, they think of knowing what triggers a person and how they should respond. This is true, however, there are specific things that we can do to lead more effectively, and they all have to do with how we use our time. Here are three things you can do to invest your time wisely in being an emotionally intelligent leader.
I promise that you will learn something new about Dave that will help you dial in to his frequency, speak his language, and ultimately increase your persuasion and influence as a leader.
In the next 24 hours, schedule a face-to-face meeting—jump on FaceTime or Zoom—with the person who came to mind as you read this article and begin to take proactive steps to manage your team’s performance and your culture. Be bold and preemptive and not permissive and reactive!